Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLT)

Welcome to our Sextember Series where we are spending time this month to reflect on and discuss sex. I’m not a Bible scholar and I didn’t attend seminary. However, God placed a burden on my heart to share what I’ve learned with you. All the knowledge in this blog comes from either personal experience or research. My perspective is that of a single woman that has been abstinent for 21 months, 1 week and 4 days. I will discuss why I chose to become abstinent in another blog.

I pray that you can receive this message with an open heart and clear mind. I pray that this can help someone choose the salvation of their soul as opposed to the carnal desires of their flesh. I’m a firm believer that once you know better you should do better. Please do better! I also believe that you should take these things to the feet of the Father and pray that He reveals them to you in your own life either past or present. Don’t just take my word for it, search the scriptures and do your own research! Now with that being said, let’s talk about sex baby! Let’s talk about sex!!!

Spiritual Effects of Intimacy 

– SOUL TIES

Here is my favorite definition of soul ties by Terri Savelle Foy: Soul ties are formed through close friendships, through vows, commitments and promises, and through physical intimacy. Not all soul ties are bad. God wants us to have healthy relationships that build us up, provide wisdom, and give godly counsel. Read more here: https://www.terri.com/4-indicators-of-wrong-soul-ties/

In the Bible, King David and Johnathan were best friends that were bonded by a soul tie. 1 Samuel 18:1 says that “after David had finished speaking with Saul, the souls of Jonathan and David were knit together, and Jonathan loved him as himself.” The Bible states that their souls were literally “KNIT TOGETHER” this is the result of their close connection as best friends. That’s deep. Now can you image how much more sex intensifies a bond??? Think souls knit together times 100!!!

In the context of this blog, we are discussing the soul ties created as a result of sex outside of marriage.  These are bad soul ties that are often difficult to break. When I think about an unhealthy soul tie, I often consider toxic relationships. Girl, I’ve seen men treat women like dogs. Literally lie, cheat, and steal from them yet the woman keeps going back. I’ve also known men to be physically and verbally abused by women who they keep going back to although she emasculates him. This peculiar behavior is usually the result of an unhealthy soul tie.

An unhealthy soul tie will have you banging down the door of someone who beat you down and ruined your credit. Don’t do it sis, keep the cookie in the cookie jar. In case you may need this, here is a very good prayer I found online to pray for deliverance from ungodly soul ties.

 

– SPIRIT HUSBANDS/WIVES

I know that you may not believe in demons sis but they exist. Unlike God, the devil is not omnipresent and cannot always be in all places. He has agents that he sends out into the world to wreak havoc in your life daily. In Luke 10:18 Jesus tells his disciples “I saw Satan fall like lightning from heaven.” (NKJV) Then in Revelation 12:9 we read “this great dragon—the ancient serpent called the devil, or Satan, the one deceiving the whole world—was thrown down to the earth with all his angels.” (NLT)

There are many different types of demonic entities and evil spirits. I don’t know them all, but I am familiar with spirit husbands and wives. When you engage in premarital sex you are giving the enemy a foothold to operate in your life. One of the consequences I suffered was a spirit husband I needed to be delivered from. This particular spirit attached itself to me and caused discord in my relationships. I would literally have a fight with my now ex -boyfriend… then five minutes later not even know what we were fighting about. The spirit also tries to have sex with you in your sleep. I would often wakeup from wet dreams with wet panties feeling beyond disgusted.

I’ve been told that these spirits are territorial and will block you from being in a relationship or being found by your spouse. For example, you can literally hit it off with someone you meet while out on the town. Then they suddenly lose interest. Sometimes men cannot perform for their significant others because they have been physically drained by spirit wives. Pray and seek God on this one. You may have an ungodly attachment to a spirit masking itself under the guise of fatigue, anger, or other feelings/emotions.

Natural Effects of Intimacy 

Some of the natural effects of intimacy include but are not limited to unplanned pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). I won’t spend too much time here because I don’t feel led to. Honestly it seems like people have tried to drill the possibilities of an unplanned pregnancy and STDs into our minds as scare tactics. I think the best thing to do is educate yourself on these things.

Maybe getting pregnant doesn’t bother you because you want to be a mother anyway. How about getting pregnant by the wrong man? That should bother you. The child you will carry is ½ of that man’s genetic and spiritual makeup. The child will be affected by bloodlines and generational curses passed down from both sides. Not to mention the potential for baby mamma/daddy drama.

The rise of STD diagnoses continues to grow in the US on an annual basis. Take a look at the chart below from the CDC. I recommend you get informed about STDs and get tested on a regular basis. There are some STDs that can lay dormant. Sis, you can literally get tested and come back clean then go back to the doctor 6 months down the line with something that did not show up on your original screening. Although I’m abstinent, I still ask my doctor to test me each time I visit.

I know that was a lot to digest and there is so much more that we could discuss. However, I want you to seek God on the things we discussed. Don’t take my word for it, search the scriptures and ask God. All things considered, I hope you take the Apostle Paul’s advice and flee fornication. Don’t walk…” Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body.” 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLT)

Also, don’t beat yourself up for desiring sex. That craving you have for sex is usually rooted in a deep desire and need for intimacy. It’s natural for you to desire intimacy. We are all relational beings, it is the way God created us. However, your environment or upbringing may have you thinking you desire sex. In all actuality you desire GOD. You crave God. That is why you’re here reading this. That is why when you get up out of that bed with someone who is not your husband you still crave intimacy. Seek Jesus on how to become more intimate with Him.

It is perfectly ok to save yourself for marriage in a culture that has vilified marriage. Don’t continue to suffer from a loss of vitality because you want to please your flesh. When you have sex with someone and your souls become knit together you inherit all that that person is, all they were and all they have been. Is it worth it? You may say but sis… the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak! I say to you that your flesh is weak that is why you should be depending on the Holy Spirit not your flesh.

Sex is so powerful. I wish you could see it in the spirit realm. I wish you understood how much the demons you let into your life by engaging in sex outside of marriage torment you. I wish you understood that you cannot see the person your dating clearly because you have an ungodly soul tie with them. Yet, all I can do it be obedient and write this blog. I hope it blessed you.

The Word: Run from sexual sin! No other sin so clearly affects the body as this one does. For sexual immorality is a sin against your own body. 1 Corinthians 6:18 (NLT)

Bonus: Check out this really good video on BREAKING SOUL TIES and this wonderful teaching called Sexual Wholeness these resources blessed me!

 

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